Sex After Menopause: The Plot Twist Nobody Warned Us About

By Ersilia Pompilio

Picture this: brunch in Palm Springs, the sun is shining, the mimosas are flowing, and a friend casually says, “Why did nobody tell us sex would need a reboot after menopause?” Cue the table going silent… then laughing.

Sexual Health, It's Important

Because yes—post-menopausal sexual health is real, it’s normal, and it’s finally getting the glow-up conversation it deserves.

After menopause, hormone levels like estrogen and testosterone dip, and that can seriously mess with libido. Add in vaginal dryness, discomfort, stress, body-image shifts, and chronic health conditions, and suddenly desire feels less “main character energy” and more on "Do Not Disturb.”

But here’s the plot twist: low sex drive isn’t a personal failure—it’s biology, psychology, and life all teaming up at once.

Enter Addyi (flibanserin)

Approved by the FDA back in 2015 for pre-menopausal women with hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), its approval expanded on December 15, 2025 to include women under 65 who are past menopause.

Addyi works in the brain, not the hormones—balancing dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin to help turn desire signals back on while quieting the internal blockers. Think of it as recalibrating the group chat upstairs.

But pills aren’t the whole story. Better sex post-menopause is also about comfort, mental health, communication, and redefining intimacy on your terms. This era isn’t about chasing your younger self—it’s about meeting yourself where you are now, wiser, freer, and fully allowed to want what you want.

Not So Innocent

For readers ready to explore pleasure with curiosity (and zero shame), Palm Springs staple Not So Innocent fits perfectly into the post-menopause glow-up conversation. Tucked on the north side of the city, the boutique is all about confidence, comfort, and play—think a judgment-free space where pleasure is treated as wellness. Owner Antonio Donan says fan-favorite Naked Silk  lube has earned cult status for enhancing comfort and sensation, with tens of thousands of bottles sold to loyal fans.

Whether you’re solo, partnered, or just curious, Not So Innocent is a reminder that sex after menopause can still be fun, empowered, and totally on your terms.

Sex after menopause?

Still valid. Still powerful. Still yours.

About the Author

Ersilia Pompilio is the Editor in Chief of SQUAD Magazine, a Palm Springs guide for bachelorettes and ladies who love to leisure. Ersilia is a Nurse Practitioner with over two decades of experience in performing, producing live storytelling shows, and hosting a podcast, she has also taught storytelling classes and written professionally for several media outlets. Originally from Los Angeles, Ersilia is also a twenty-year resident of Palm Springs, California.